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[00:02:20] Welcome back to the she who does podcast. I have a killer episode for you today. I am so excited to record this episode. I'm like busting at the seams to talk about these topics. In fact, today's episode, I feel like I could spend an hour. Talking about the seven things that I'm going to talk to you about today.
[00:02:45] In fact, I could do a whole series on each of these things. So today's episode is called the seven deadly sins to your success in 2025. And I'm going to take you through what I believe are the seven deadly sins. Seven deadly [00:03:00] sins to your success, things that I want you to become super consciously aware of in 2025.
[00:03:07] And if you were to work on these seven things, this would have such a huge impact. In your success, whether that be in different areas of your life, business, career, money, all of the things you could apply these seven deadly sins to any area of your life, work on them and see huge transformation in 2025.
[00:03:30] So let's get started. into it. Deadly sin. Number one is your self talk. Now, this is something that I refer to often, if you've been in my world a long time as your inner mean girl. Okay. You have your inner mean girl, which could also be called your lower self. And then you have your higher self. And a lot of the women that I work with are fucking tuned in [00:04:00] Like fully tuned into only one radio station, which is their inner mean girl, where they are really critical of themselves.
[00:04:08] And so what I want to invite you to do is really take a really good look at your self talk and really start to become consciously aware of your negative self talk, how much you're beating yourself up, how you're putting yourself down, how you're cutting yourself. And I spoke about this in last week's episode.
[00:04:28] If you give your negative thought an inch, it will take a mile. You have to become really fucking good in 2025 at becoming. So aware of your self talk, your inner dialogue to yourself about yourself and stopping it in its tracks. Because if you give that negative thought an inch, it's going to take a mile,
[00:04:50] so your self talk, right? This is really fucking important. Like so important. If you are aware of your self talk and you are beating yourself [00:05:00] And you are putting yourself down and you are constantly being really hard on yourself with your inner dialogue. It's really critical. This is so important and something you want to work on in 2025.
[00:05:11] Can I share with you when I was really in the depths of my despair, the depths of my self hatred, the depths of my victim hood, you know, this is well over a decade, 12, 14, 15 years ago, I used to wake up. And before I even put my feet on the ground, my inner mean girl was so loud and so aggressive. She would just, stop beating me up and beating me down.
[00:05:39] The minute I consciously woke up in the morning, my first thoughts were like, so toxic, so negative, so limiting. And Everything I teach is what I did, right? To become the version of Crystal fucking Wilson that you see now. And so I started to become really [00:06:00] aware of myself talk because before that, I wasn't even aware of how negative I was.
[00:06:05] I knew I had negative self talk, but when I really tuned into what I was thinking and saying about myself, I was like, this shit is dark. Like this is not normal. Is this what's happening for everyone else? And so I really started to become consciously aware. I started to reframe every fucking negative thought that I had about myself.
[00:06:23] And you know what my inner mean girl did when I did that? She was like, bullshit. You don't believe that. That's not true. You're a fucking loser. My inner mean girl fought me in the arena, like two gladiators going to war. And you know what I did? I got in that arena and I fought for myself every fucking day and I reframed every thought.
[00:06:43] Was it easy? Absolutely not. It was not easy, ? Because I had spent my whole life feeding my inner mean girl, giving her all my power. And so when I decided to reframe my thoughts and change my inner dialogue and turn down the volume on my inner mean girl, [00:07:00] you betcha she came in hard and fast trying to stop me.
[00:07:04] But I fought for myself. I got in that arena and I did the tedious, repetitive, boring, unsexy work of reframing my thoughts, right? Until I started to believe the positive reframes. That I was saying to myself, it took time, it took dedication, but I was fucking worth it. And so are you, so your self talk,
[00:07:28] We're going to change that in 2025. If you're beating yourself and cutting yourself down and limiting yourself and telling yourself you're shit, you can't, you're this and you're that, that is 100 percent cock blocking your success. And it is something you need to look at. It's something you need to work on.
[00:07:43] Number two of the seven deadly sins to your success in 2025. is self neglect. I want you to look at where are you neglecting yourself? Okay. And this is like basic stuff, but I often say sometimes the [00:08:00] smallest things, the one percenters , we kind of dismiss as not having a big impact, but when you compound all those one percenters, they have a huge impact on your transformation, your healing, your success, your journey.
[00:08:13] And so when I talk about self neglect, your self talk is absolutely a part of that. But then I also want you to look at what is your morning routine? What is your evening routine? Are you nourishing your body? Are you having enough water? Are you getting enough sleep? Like, what are the best Basic things that you need to be the best version of yourself that you are not doing for yourself.
[00:08:37] And this is something that I constantly look at within myself because it's so easy to slip up. It's so easy to slip up and Step into self neglect. So some of the things that I'm looking at really like we're at the end of the year and I love the end of year energy. Like for me, it's so fucking powerful.
[00:08:57] And so something that I'm looking at is like [00:09:00] reflecting on my evening and morning routine. And what habits behaviors have I slipped into unconsciously that I'm bringing awareness to that I want to refine that I want to improve on. So one of those things for me is sleep. Like over the years. I have had really bad toxic sleep patterns and really like over the years I've had toxic nighttime routines.
[00:09:26] You know, there was a time where I would like literally not sleep. I would just sit up and binge shitty TV all fucking night long until like 3am. I mean, this is, like well over a decade ago. So I've really improved on my sleep and my sleep has actually really improved this last year, but I really want to do something that scares the shit out of me, but I want to stop sleeping with my phone in my room.
[00:09:52] And I really want to improve my relationship with social media and my relationship with my phone, which will therefore improve my sleep. Sleep. [00:10:00] So for me, when I'm looking at where am I neglecting myself? These are the things that I'm looking at the little things that really small to do, but we'll have a huge impact on my mindset, my energy, how I show up my capacity.
[00:10:15] So where are you neglecting yourself? In like basic things, start with the basic needs of a human being of a woman who wants to thrive and just ask yourself, like literally just picking up a pen and paper and sitting down and getting real with yourself and going, where am I neglecting myself?
[00:10:34] Where does self neglect show up in my life? Allow yourself to bring awareness to that and then make a plan of fucking change it. Like honestly. Okay. Number three of the seven deadly sins to your success in 2025. Have I been saying 2025 this whole time? I feel like I may have accidentally said 2023.
[00:10:56] Anyway, you guys get what I'm laying down. [00:11:00] Number three is self sabotage. Okay. So I want you to have a look at your self sabotage reflect on 2024. Where did you self sabotage now? Self sabotage is like a blanket statement, but everyone has their own way, their own flavor, their own version of self sabotage.
[00:11:20] So you need to look at what this looks like for you. I'm going to give you some examples. Number one, Thing that I see in my clients and women I work with is perfectionism. Like, I want you to like pull the veil back on your fucking perfectionism and see it for what it is. It is you hiding, playing small, and it is 100 percent a self sabotage thing.
[00:11:45] Pattern and behavior, right? You're waiting for everything to be perfect that you can move so that you can be the version of you. You want to be this. You can take action so you can launch that thing so that you can ask for that raise, whatever it is. It's all bullshit. [00:12:00] And like in 2025 we are pulling a seat up to the mirror and we are facing our bullshit.
[00:12:06] Okay. And so I need you to take a really long, hard look at how you've self sabotaged in 2024. Was it your perfectionism? Was it your overthinking constantly overthinking about what moves, what actions, what decisions to make? Was it your procrastination? Was it your overwhelm? Like overwhelm is absolutely a strategy that you are reinforcing that allows you to see.
[00:12:33] Stay right where you are. So I want you to really get real with yourself and look at what my patterns of self sabotage in 2024, get clear on it, bring awareness to it, journal on it, and then make a plan to change it. Can I get an amen? Okay. Number four of the seven deadly sins to your success in 2025 is
[00:12:57] your lack of self trust, [00:13:00] if you've been a private client of mine, you will know that in our sessions, one of the things that I do very intentionally is listen to your language. If you've ever done a call with me, you know that I will often. Bring awareness to the language that you're using, the way you're speaking about yourself, things like that.
[00:13:24] If you've ever done a call with me, I'm always like, Hey, let me share with you what you just said and what the deeper meaning behind that is and the language you just use. And the number one thing That I hear women say is I don't know. In fact, it is actually shocking how many times I do an initial call with somebody.
[00:13:45] Sometimes I count how many times they say, I don't know, I don't know when I'm asking them questions about themselves, about their lives, about their dreams, about their goals, about their business. All of the things, these questions are related to them personally. [00:14:00] And it is absolutely sometimes mind blowing how often women say, I don't know.
[00:14:05] I don't know. I mean, like I'm talking like 10, 15, 20, 50 times in an hour long conversation. I don't know. And you know what I say every fucking time is. You do know, you do fucking know the only person who knows is you, right? But get so disconnected from ourselves because we're listening to our inner mean girl.
[00:14:28] Who's telling us we don't know that we're not connected to ourselves, that we're not good enough, that all the fucking bullshit, ? We're stuck in self sabotage patterns, ? A perfectionism, overwhelmed, overthinking, procrastinating, ? And we're not taking big bold moves and taking action, ?
[00:14:45] And this leads to such It's a lack of self trust. And then what happens? It's like, I don't know. And women are stuck in this. I don't know, Luke. I don't know. I don't know. And the thing is the only person who actually knows is you, you're just [00:15:00] actually so disconnected from yourself that you genuinely think you don't know, but you do know the only person who knows is you.
[00:15:07] And The self trust is really about rebuilding your relationship with yourself, which is something I speak so passionately about. And it's threaded through all the work that I do with women. It's like reconnecting back to you, building your relationship with you. And you do this through it.
[00:15:26] Positive self talk, looking at yourself, talk, rebuilding that relationship that you do this through looking at where you're neglecting yourself. You do this through looking at where you've got self sabotage patterns and when you look at this stuff and you start to shift it and change it. What do you think you're doing?
[00:15:42] You're reconnecting to you. You're rebuilding your relationship with yourself, which builds self trust. Okay, so number four is self trust. This is something you want to work on in 2025. And I want you to ask yourself in your journaling. Where did I not [00:16:00] trust myself in 2024? If we're reflecting on the, you had just had, where did you not fully trust yourself?
[00:16:06] Where did you not fully back yourself? Okay. Which leads us to number five of the seven deadly sins to your success in 2025. Self doubt, your lack of self belief, the fact that you keep feeding your doubt instead of feeding your self belief, right? Somebody once said to me, a mentor, when I was in my sales career many moons ago, if you weren't back yourself, why the fuck would anyone else?
[00:16:36] And you know, when people say something to you, it just really sticks to you. And I remember my boss, my mentor at the time was said this to me. And it's something that's always stuck with me. And I was like, yeah, that's right. Like if I'm not going to back me, if I'm not going to believe in me, my capabilities, my dreams, my vision.
[00:16:54] My purpose. Why the fuck would anyone else? And a lot of the things that I [00:17:00] teach women in business is about energetic. So talk about energy a lot. And it's like, if you're showing up in the world. Even in your career, business relationships, and you don't fully back yourself, believe in yourself, know you're capable.
[00:17:15] Why would any one else that we are energetic beings? We feel other people's energy. Why would Even if we're not consciously aware of it. And so if you're out here trying to make something of yourself, trying to build something, trying to start a business, trying to elevate in your career, but you don't really back yourself.
[00:17:35] You don't have like an intense level of like fucking confidence that I can do it. And if I don't know how to do it right now, I'm going to figure it the fuck out. Like that's the level of like self belief you have in self confidence. People can feel that lack of energy within you. And that's why there's like, nah, they pass because if you don't back yourself, who the fuck will, right?
[00:17:59] So we've got to [00:18:00] work on your self doubt. We've got to build your self belief. And I like to use it in an analogy of like, The believability scale. So it's okay if today you don't have rock solid level 10 belief in whatever it is that you're wanting to do, be, create, become, right? What's the next step?
[00:18:19] So it's like this, let's look at it in terms of money. Let's say I'm working with a new client and they have not earned a dollar in their business. Okay. And they say to me, I want to earn a million dollars this year. I want to create a seven figure business. I'm going to check in. Internally in their internal world where their belief is.
[00:18:43] Cause it's easy to say, but if you don't have the belief infrastructure to back up what you're saying, you're going to self sabotage, right? You're not going to trust yourself to make those big moves. And so let's look at the believability scale rather than jumping [00:19:00] from zero to seven figures. Or zero to six figures.
[00:19:03] Let's talk about like you're earning your first thousand dollars. Let's talk about having your first 10 K month. Let's talk about having your first six K year or six K month or whatever it is that you're working to. So I feel like sometimes we can jump way too many steps ahead. And we don't really have the internal infrastructure to really get our energy and belief behind that.
[00:19:26] And then we self sabotage because we didn't have the belief in the first place. So I want you to work on your self doubt. I want you to build Build your self belief. So what is the next step? What's a goal or an action or a decision or a move that you can get your energy behind and fully believe it, that you're capable of achieving that and then go and fucking achieve that.
[00:19:51] And guess what you've just done. You've just gone up a level in your believability scale. Then it's like, what's the next action? The next step, the next move that you [00:20:00] 100 percent will back yourself know that you're capable and let's go and make that move. And guess what? You're at level two of your believability scale.
[00:20:07] And that is how you build self belief. It's like, I don't believe in myself. Crystal, but you're not making any fucking moves. You're not doing anything to actually build your believability. So let's think of what's a move that you can get your energy behind that you know that you can do.
[00:20:23] And let's go and make that move and let's build your believability. Love it. Can I get another amen? All right. So number six, but the seven deadly sins to your success in 2025 this is a big piece. I have a whole course on this called becoming her. This is your self concept. Okay. So whoever you want to be, whoever you're working towards becoming,
[00:20:52] here's what I need you to know. You will never go further than the person that you believe yourself [00:21:00] to be. So this is really about deep identity work.
[00:21:04] The new year is just around the corner. So a lot of us are thinking about goals, right? And we're looking at what we want to achieve. And so many people like level one. Thinking is like, what do I want to achieve this year? What are the tangible goals I want to achieve? How do I want to scale my business? How do I want to excel in my career? Like we look at all these like tangible things in our life that we want to achieve, but asking yourself what you want to achieve and writing those goals down is a level one thinking. I need you to think.
[00:21:34] Level two thinking right, which is a more powerful question to ask yourself rather than what do you want to achieve is who do I need to become in order to achieve this? This is identity work, right? Because so often people set goals and they don't actually shift grow.
[00:21:54] Develop their identity to be able to become the version of themselves that [00:22:00] actually achieves those goals, right? So 2024 crystal, everything that I achieved in 2024 was this version of myself.
[00:22:08] Everything that I achieved in 2024 is 2024 crystal. I'm sitting down and I'm like looking at what I want to achieve. And I'm writing all my tangible goals down. And the next question I asked myself. Is who do I need to become? And these seven deadly sins that I'm asking you to look at, this is what I look at.
[00:22:28] Okay. So if I want to get to this level in my business and myself in 2025, if I want to achieve these things, I'm looking at myself talk. I'm looking at how I self sabotage myself. I'm looking at where I played small. I'm looking at where I didn't fully back myself and trust myself this year. I'm looking at how I can , build my own self belief in 2025.
[00:22:51] So I'm asking myself these exact questions. And this allows me to look at the identity of who I've been and who I need to [00:23:00] become in order to achieve the things I want to achieve this year, because you will never go further than the version of yourself. Okay. So if you don't believe you can achieve these things, you're not going to believe it.
[00:23:15] You've got to look at your self concept. It's like, how do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as a six figure business owner, a seven figure business over? Do you see yourself as like a powerful woman who's out there believing in herself capable? Do you see yourself as somebody who's like in the arena playing the fucking game?
[00:23:37] Okay. Creating success. If you don't see yourself as that version of yourself, you're never going to be able to create it. And so this is like that deeper level identity, looking at your self concept and asking yourself, okay, here's what I want to achieve. , if I want to achieve X, Y, Z, Who do I need to become in order to achieve it?
[00:23:58] What is her mindset, her [00:24:00] standards, her way of living? What's her morning and evening routine? What's herself talk like, you know, what are her patterns, habits, behaviors, you know, how much does she trust herself? How much does she believe in herself? You got to look at these things and this is going to shift your identity and help you to step into the version of yourself who actually fucking achieves.
[00:24:20] The things you want to achieve this year, because how many years have you set goals and you don't achieve them? And this is because you set goals that surpass your current self concept. And we need to actually develop your self concepts that you are stepping into the version of yourself who actually can hold, create the things you want to create.
[00:24:43] Oh, I mean, I could literally do an hour episode on each of these things. I'm just kind of like giving you some dot points. It's such. Powerful fucking work. It's the work that I do with my breakthrough clients. It is life changing, transformative work, deep stuff, which I love. I'm like, when [00:25:00] you work with me, we only go deep.
[00:25:01] We don't do surface level bullshit because I always am about treating the root cause of the problem. So we can actually create everlasting change in your life. No surface bullshit at she who dares HQ. Okay. Are you ready for number seven of the seven deadly sins to your success in 2025 is self responsibility.
[00:25:24] It is time to take radical fucking responsibility. But everything in your life, you are in control of how you think, how you feel, how you react, how you respond. You are in control of your self talk. You are in control of your self sabotage patterns. You are in control of how much you trust yourself, how much you back yourself, how much you believe in yourself.
[00:25:51] You're in control of your identity. It may not feel Feel like you are right now, because you're probably tuned into the wrong radio [00:26:00] station of your inner mean girl. And you are in perpetuating cycles that give away your power. But I want you to know it is time for you to take responsibility. For your life.
[00:26:12] If you don't have the results, you want your responsibility. If you don't have the inner dialogue, you want your responsibility. If you are addicted to yourself, sabotage patterns, playing small, hiding all of these things. Once you bring awareness to what's not working, what's not in alignment with the future version of yourself, who's living, creating and being and doing what you want to do.
[00:26:36] Once you become aware of this and then you take responsibility. And responsibility is a place of fucking high empowerment. There's a big difference energetically, which I always speak on between blame and responsibility. So often women are scared to take responsibility because they think it's the same as blame.
[00:26:58] Blame is where you're [00:27:00] probably currently at. Blame is. I'm a victim. My life is happening to me. I have no control. Whereas responsibility and like radical responsibility is like, I'm in control of how I think, feel, react and respond. I may not be thinking, feeling and reacting and responding right now in alignment with who I want to be and become.
[00:27:23] But I'm taking responsibility today. I'm going to look at these seven things, these seven areas of my life. I'm going to bring awareness to them and I'm going to start to compassionately and understandingly lovingly work through these areas and improve on these areas. That's radical responsibility. Wow.
[00:27:45] They are the seven deadly sins to your success in 2025. So let's just recap number one, your self talk. Okay. Number two, your self neglect. Where are you neglecting yourself? Number three, your [00:28:00] self sabotage. Number four, your lack of self trust. Number five, your lack of self belief, your self doubt.
[00:28:10] Number six, self responsibility. And number seven is yourself concept. And I just realizing that I did those back to front, but you get the gist. There are no specific order. There's no sequence to the order. Okay. These are just seven of the things that if you work on these things, you take time to reflect.
[00:28:30] things and what worked, what didn't work in 2024 and really get clear on like which of these seven deadly sins are you currently stuck in a negative, perpetuating toxic cycle that you want to work on and start working on it. Thank you so much for coming to this episode. As I said, I could literally do an hour podcast episode on each of these seven things.
[00:28:52] And who knows, maybe I will, but I just wanted to give you something to reflect on as we're coming up to the end of the year, because this is the [00:29:00] stuff that I look at. I'm always going, okay, . Where did I not show up as the version of myself that I wanted to in the year just gone, and then what do I need to look at?
[00:29:10] What do I need to look at? Bring awareness to so that I can start working on it because what you are not aware of and what you're not willing to look at. You can't fucking change. You're not taking responsibility for your life. If you're like, you know, pushing down. Not willing to face your blind spots. I often use like the analogy of like, it's time to pull a seat up to the mirror and face your fucking bullshit.
[00:29:32] And I love to do this reflective exercise at the end of every year and also celebrate myself. Like I spoke about. Last episode about how important it is to celebrate yourself all the time. So I don't look at this stuff and then beat myself up. That would defeat the whole purpose. I look at this stuff from a place of empowerment.
[00:29:55] I look at this stuff knowing that once I look at this stuff, I bring awareness to it and [00:30:00] I take responsibility. Then I'm back in the driver's seat. I'm back in empowerment and I can fucking change it. And so I want you to look at this stuff through the lens of empowerment and love and compassion, because you're not going to get it right.
[00:30:14] You're going to fall down. You're going to trip. You're going to stumble. You're not always going to get it right. And you're not meant to. I learn way more about myself from my fuck ups, my failures, my falls, my stumbles. Than I do when I have easy success. Okay. So be willing to look at the seven deadly sins to your success in 2025 message me, let me know what landed, what was like a big aha for you.
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[00:31:17] We have no reviews and your view would mean so much to me. Now also just want to give you a little update on what's happening with the podcast. So this. Is our second last episode before the end of the year and next episode is actually coming out on a different day. So we're actually releasing episode seven on Monday, the 30th of December.
[00:31:43] And that's because like the next Wednesday falls on Christmas day. And like, I know you guys love me. I love you, but I know that on Christmas day, you're probably not going to listen to my podcast. And so we've just moved it to the next. This episode will come out Monday the 30th [00:32:00] and it's actually an episode that I have been putting off recording.
[00:32:04] I'm going to be doing a bit of a deep dive into like my reflections on 2024. This year has been a huge year of like loss, grief, IVF business. There's just been so much that's happened. And we've just finished our last IVF frozen embryo transfer for the year. And it was unsuccessful. If you follow me on social media, I've just recently shared a couple of posts about it.
[00:32:29] It's been such a difficult journey and I really wanted to do like a recap of the year about my IVF journey, like how I've navigated business mindset, you know, cause it's been fucking tough. Like IVF, if you know, you know, it's not an easy journey. And so I actually was meant to record that episode, this episode.
[00:32:52] And I was just like, I feel like I just need to give myself a little bit more time to like process and reflect because I'm literally [00:33:00] just coming out of a third failed embryo transfer. And so just to give you an update on my personal life, this episode comes out today, which is for you will be Wednesday.
[00:33:10] And then I'm heading away for five days to new side. I've never needed a holiday more than I do right now. I just feel like mentally and emotionally, like haven't had an actual holiday in like only 18 months. And so I'm just looking forward to switching off at NUSA and just really replenishing myself.
[00:33:28] This year has been go, go, go, go, go in business. Business has been amazing. But at the same time I've been navigating IBF. Pumping my body full of medication. And so I feel like I'll have processed more of like the year having spent five days chilling by the pool, drinking margaritas eating cheese, all my favorite things, wine, cheese, margaritas, sun, sand, sea, beautiful nature walks.
[00:33:56] I feel like. After five days in Noosa, I feel [00:34:00] like I'll be ready to record that podcast episode, which will come out on the 30th of December. And it's going to be a big, raw, emotional episode but beautiful. And there'll be lots of beautiful insights. I know that you've got to take away from it because whenever I share about my IVF journey, I feel like so many of you feel really connected and inspired because like I show up like this.
[00:34:25] And then I often will give you guys a peek behind the curtain of like, Hey, I've been showing up like this and doing all this stuff that you see on social media and in my business, but I've been also going through this behind the scenes. And I find that. The most common thing that's like said to me is like how inspiring it is.
[00:34:41] Like I had no idea. Very often my clients, you know, will message me after they see a post and I give people that peek behind the curtain and be like, wow, like we did a session on that day and I had absolutely no idea. . Which I think is a true testament to the work that I have done on myself and the work that I help my [00:35:00] clients do is to build that resilience, build your capacity, work on these seven deadly sins.
[00:35:06] Like, these are the things that I work on so that I can show up and be this version of myself while still navigating. Really fucking hard shit in life as we all are. So anyway, after today's episode, the next episode will be the 30th of December and it's going to be a deep dive into all the things that I've navigated in 2024 while going through IVF business, loss, grief, all the things.
[00:35:31] Thank you so much. Love you guys. Have the best day. Chat soon. [00:36:00] [00:37:00]
